Rebuilding to Serve You Better
March 15, 2012 § Leave a comment
“Listen, Mommy needs a time out. You sit quietly with your snack and watch this show.”
“Here’s an idea! How about you see who can run around the house 10 times the fastest?”
“Okay, you don’t have to have a nap but you do need to have quiet time”
“It’s very important you stay in bed. You can look at a book or listen to music but you must stay in bed”
Any of these sound familiar? This is code for “you are about to see a side of Mommy that may scare you, so you’d better do as I ask”.
Driving home the other night on the 401 I noticed a sign outside of a service centre that was being renovated. It said in very large letters “ Rebuilding To Serve You Better”. Immediatley, I laughed out loud. What a great slogan for parents! Wouldn’t that be a terrific approach, when you feel yourself getting a little too close to the edge, to be able to hang a sign around your neck that says “Rebuilding to Serve You Better. Thank you for your patience and sorry for the inconvenience”. Automatically, everyone knows to steer clear; not open for business! Or perhaps a “yield” sign – a big bright red triangle, easily recognized by toddlers: “ Yield young ones, Mommy’s grumpy train is comin’ through!”.
We all want to be terrific parents, to set a good example for our children, to recognize those teachable moments that will build integrity and good values. We yell at our kids, hearing the voice in the back of our heads saying “stop yelling, they deserve patience”, or we grump and groan about having to tidy up after everyone else, when we know the time will come when we will long for it in our empty nest. As I was recently reminded: “The days are long but the years are short!”
Rebuilding to better serve… Mine is in the form of a french vanilla cappucino, in my reading chair for 30 minutes during a well-negotiated “quiet time”, while I find my way back to center again.